telling gay men that they are allowed to love each other freely, openly, and passionately will always be more important than reassuring insecure straight men that they can hug their bestie without being gay
the solution to men withholding love and affection from each other out of fear of being perceived as gay is to remove the stigma around being perceived as gay, not to “no homo” male affection
the internet HAS been turned into a series of easily swallowable pills for quick consumption and standardization and I don’t think it’s ‘boomery’ to discuss how the internet no longer feels like a wild wild west and has been massively gentrified for quick access to anything you could ever want or need and that next hit of dopamine. there is a difference between 'social media bad’ and 'our experiences online are increasingly manufactured by algorithms looking to make money from scraping metrics of data about who we are to either sell us stuff or sell who we are to people who will sell us stuff’
ultimately even the most #progressive of progressives and leftists think misogyny is a non-issue or that it “pales” in comparison to other forms of oppression and that really is so funny to me given the feminization of poverty and the gendered division of labor and just how it’s so obvious that abuse, domestic violence, and sexual violence interact hand-in-hand with housing crises, income inequality, and job insecurities lol
u kno i actually think its really funny how if u criticize kink or the sex industry ppl assume ur a prude against all erotica. like imagine a world where if u brought up the mistreatment of agricultural workers ppl were like “oh so u hate food? :/” like. that would b hilarious
“Capitalist innovation” is publicly funded. Only the profits are privatized.
Graphic by Fuck Capitalism 2020
A Handbook of Disappointed Fate: ‘The Dead Woman’ by Anne Boyer
Besides the misogyny I feel like the key reason why you don’t see female gender non conformity celebrated in popular culture/media the same way we’re starting to see male gender non conformity celebrated is that it’s not profitable or marketable… you can’t exactly sell a lack of makeup and shaving products to women whereas selling all that femininity shit to men opens up a whole new demographic to make money off of
“no one is bored, everything is boring” — mark fisher
https://www.3ammagazine.com/3am/no-one-is-bored-everything-is-boring/
from ‘There Is No Unmarked Woman’ by Deborah Tannen [x]
that sunny d tweeted ‘i can’t do this anymore’ is horrifying like companies are masquerading as depressed people to appear relatable to the depressed masses that’s dystopian lmao
“The phenomenon of female anger has often been turned against itself, the figure of the angry woman reframed as threat […] She conjures a lineage of threatening archetypes: the harpy and her talons, the witch and her spells, the medusa and her writhing locks. The notion that female anger is unnatural or destructive is learned young; children report perceiving displays of anger as more acceptable from boys than from girls.”— LESLIE JAMISON, I Used to Insist I Didn’t Get Angry. Not Anymore.
Therapists reinforce the cult of individualism by imposing responsibility for all a woman’s problems on the woman herself. As long as women can be sold the myth that our problems are the result of unique and individual human experiences, we will be powerless against the social conditions that create madness. We must recognise that it is not we, but society’s definition of us, that is pathological, and we face real problems generated by real social tyranny.
Susan Williams, Mental Illness as a Social Disease
I knew my boy steve was with the shits
